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In this episode of Ayahuasca Podcast, host Sam Believ has a conversation with Sebastian Hernandez, a performance coach specializing in sacred masculinity, energy work, and tantra.
We touch upon topics of:
– Sebastian’s journey from the corporate world to working with plant medicines (01:18)
– Defining and embodying sacred masculinity (13:07)
– Exploring conscious vs. unconscious sexuality (04:04)
– Understanding chakras and their impact on energy (07:29)
– The significance of tantra and sexual energy in healing (19:18)
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Find more about Sebastian Hernandez at Instagram: @IgniteSelfMastery or listen to his podcast Ignite the Spark Within on all major platforms.
Transcript
Sam Believ (00:00)
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Sam Believ (00:04)
Hi guys and welcome to Ayahuasca podcast as always with you the whole assembly of today I’m interviewing Sebastian Hernandez Sebastian is a coach performance coach he teaches sacred masculinity energy tantra and a lot all the kind of interesting stuff Sebastian welcome to the show
Ignite With Sebastian (00:28)
Ed, by Sam. Thank you for having me, man. Thank you. Thank you. Looking forward to having this conversation.
Sam Believ (00:32)
Sebastian is also a writer, a podcaster, a speaker, a bit of everything. Is that a good description, Sebastian?
Ignite With Sebastian (00:40)
Yeah, yeah, absolutely. One of my dream goals when I was a young kid was to be a Renaissance man. And so I would say part of being a Renaissance man is you get to be a little bit of everything.
Sam Believ (00:52)
That’s a good one, yeah. ⁓ Like there’s space for that, knowing a bit of everything so you can combine the uncombinable. Sebastian, ⁓ so before we begin talking about the topic of this episode today, talk to us a little bit about your history and how did your life bring you into the work with plant medicines?
Ignite With Sebastian (01:02)
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Ignite With Sebastian (01:18)
Yeah, man. Thank you for that question. The origin story. So I would say I took my initial leap was in 2015. So prior to that, I was working in the corporate world. I was building a financial agency. And while it was good, it wasn’t my purpose. And I found myself in this crossroads of like really getting connected to like not knowing who I was, what my purpose was, or like really like what was the purpose of being here.
Ignite With Sebastian (01:46)
And I knew that that wasn’t going to be sustainable. So I had to take a leap and really discover that. And 2015, I did. I took on that leap and it was a discovery of identifying what are my core values? What do I actually believe? What do I want? What do I want to achieve? And it’s been an eight year process, man. It’s been an eight year process since that. And in that process, it’s been a lot of discovering, a lot of
Ignite With Sebastian (02:12)
of peeling of the onion, discovering different parts of myself. And in that process was not only being grounded and identifying what it meant to be grounded in who I was, but then also moving into the paradigm of, all right, well then how does plant medicine support me, right? And all the alliances that come with plant medicine. And then from there moving into this conscious sexuality, which is then how do I manage my sexual urges?
Ignite With Sebastian (02:39)
from a place that’s empowered and not lustful and depleting. So it’s been a journey. It’s been a journey of eight years of really navigating, of walking these paths, of encountering different mentors and teachers that have guided me, men and women, that have taught me things that I didn’t know were my blind spots and gave me extra tools and practices to implement, which now I have this day -to -day lifestyle that I…
Ignite With Sebastian (03:06)
love and I feel empowered around my sexuality and I get to empower others around their sexuality. So in a nutshell that’s a summary.
Sam Believ (03:18)
So you said the finance was not your purpose. So what is your purpose right now?
Ignite With Sebastian (03:23)
Yeah, empower world -class leaders. Like that was very clear for me that like I may not be the one that changes the world, but from a place of being a coach that empowers people to really step into their greatness, like I am meant to empower people that are gonna make a difference and impact on a world level. And it’s just like, I know that like world -class people that are out to make a world -class impact and I get to remind them of who they are for themselves and the world. And that’s fucking cool.
Sam Believ (03:55)
That’s a good one. So you mentioned conscious sexuality. Let’s talk a little bit about that. What is the difference between the conscious sexuality and the unconscious one?
Ignite With Sebastian (04:04)
Yeah, man, absolutely. I think it says it in the name itself, right? Like conscious, like how conscious are we of our sexuality? How conscious are we of our relationship to sexuality? Like how conscious are we of how we relate to sex and how that impacts our day to day life? How that impacts our relationships? How that impacts our communication? How that impacts our lifestyle? Like…
Ignite With Sebastian (04:31)
How aware are we of the sexual energy component? How aware are we are of the sacredness to sexuality and utilizing sexuality as a means to elevate our connection to spirituality, to elevate or transcend our states of consciousness, right? And so, conscious sexuality is where we start to now dissect and dialogue and interact with what does it actually mean?
Ignite With Sebastian (04:59)
Right? And so instead of being like, all right, well, this is exactly what it is. It’s really more from this framework of, are we now bringing consciousness to something that we’ve been programmed on what it’s supposed to be? Yeah. And so it’s really questioning the programming around our sexuality. And so therefore we start becoming more conscious of it.
Sam Believ (05:23)
Cool, cool, and you mentioned sexual energies. I remember something you said to me that really I found very curious that the healing energy is a sexual energy, like it’s one and the same. Can you talk a little bit about that?
Ignite With Sebastian (05:37)
Yeah, absolutely. Well, so I guess to go back a bit on that, right, is understanding that we have our chakra systems, right, and our chakra systems are going to be able to generate the energy, each specific one, a specific component, but when they’re all aligned and they start to circulate through our body, right, our magnetic field starts to expand. And that energy field, think of it like if you’ve ever seen Dragon Ball Z.
Ignite With Sebastian (06:05)
Right? We’re like Goku starts to like Chi up, right? He starts to like increase his energy or that sexual energy. That’s the same Chi energy that we’re talking about. And that’s the same energy that we can actually utilize to heal, right? And healing from a component of utilizing that magnetic energy to be able to bring light, to be able to bring healing. Yes. And this really goes into the intentionality behind our energy.
Ignite With Sebastian (06:33)
Right. How are we utilizing our energy? What are we creating? What are we manifesting? Right. And so, yes, absolutely. Sexual energy can be a healing modality, but sexual energy can also do the opposite. So let’s not get it confused and think that all sexual energy is healing energy because there is sexual energy that can be actually poison to other people and to ourselves. Right. And so it’s being able to understand again, how conscious am I?
Ignite With Sebastian (07:01)
of my sexual energy, my sexual intentions, yes, my sexual pleasures and having awareness of all of that has an impact on our environment, on the people that we get to influence, that we get to share our space with.
Sam Believ (07:19)
So you mentioned chakras, you know, for those who don’t know, give us a little tiny course on chakras, what they are and… Yeah.
Ignite With Sebastian (07:29)
Yeah, yeah, yeah, chakra. So the chakras, I’m sure there’s been a lot of there’s there’s now it’s it’s widely spread, right? It’s a relatively common component methodology belief system, right? But it’s also a framework. It’s a structure that allows us to engage with our energy fields or specific energy points in our body that relate to specific parts of our life. Right. And so if we start with our root chakra, our root chakras was going to give us our sense of stability.
Ignite With Sebastian (07:56)
our sense of groundedness, our sense of belonging, right? When we think about a root, we think about a tree, right? And a tree, ⁓ the longer that roots are deeper within the ground, the more solid that tree is gonna be to be unmessable with, right? No matter what hurricane winds come, right? The winds of life, like well -rooted tree can sustain that, right? And so our root shock was just gonna give us the stability to actually walk in this, on this route.
Ignite With Sebastian (08:27)
there we move up to our sacral. Our sacral is where we now start to turn up the heat, right? And that heat is turned into our passion, into our sexual energy, into our creativity, into our imagination, right? Into our the component that starts to expand, right? That becomes explosive. From there we move it up to our solar plexus. You see our solar plexus is what gives that massive energy expansion direction.
Ignite With Sebastian (08:53)
And once we have direction with that energy, with that energy, we can now utilize that sexual energy and direct it towards our manifestations, towards our habits, towards our actions that we need to be able to create things with. Right. And so this is where we get our willpower from. From there, we move up to our heart chakra. Our heart chakra is where we now get connected to our emotions, where we get connected to the unconditional love component, the capacity to forgive.
Ignite With Sebastian (09:22)
the capacity to release anger, to release hate, to release judgment, to release all of these low frequency energies that keep us stuck and alone and disconnected. Yes. So our heart chakra allows us to connect and to be able to be in that love space. From there, we move up to our throat chakra, our truth. Yes. Our authenticity, our capacity to speak the truth and know how to discern when to
Ignite With Sebastian (09:52)
be in silence because silence is just as important. Yes, from there we move up to our third eye. Our third eye is our capacity to see beyond the here and the now, to see beyond just our eyesight, but be able to see dimensionally. It’s like having a big, huge movie theater within your forehead where you can see the past, the future, the present, the different possibilities, your connection. And from there we move up to our crown shot.
Ignite With Sebastian (10:20)
where this is where I believe that we get to actually wear our crown chakra. And there’s been people that have experienced actually feeling a crown shot, something on your top of your head, like a crown, when you’re fully tapped into that. And that crown chakra is believed to give you access to source. Where you now have access to source. You don’t need a Pope, a priest, a shaman, a healer. You’re it. You have direct access to source.
Ignite With Sebastian (10:48)
And when you’re able to connect to source, then you have the capacity, the responsibility to be king or queen of your universe. Cause you now have all systems online. Your chakra system is fully connected. Your Kundalini has awakened. You are now transmitting electricity, right? And so again, this is a, this is a component or a belief system that allows us to have a framework to expand on the energy work and how to utilize that. So
Ignite With Sebastian (11:17)
In a nutshell, yes, in a summary, those are your chakra systems and you can imagine plays hand in hand with conscious sexuality because we’re now bringing more mindfulness to our energy, more mindfulness to our attention on where we’re moving our sexual energy.
Sam Believ (11:36)
So how does one know if let’s say a chakra or if you are out of balance or the flow of the energy, how does one navigate that?
Ignite With Sebastian (11:46)
Yeah, well, just a matter of identifying, bringing awareness and observation to your current state, right? Like, how do you feel currently? Do you feel empowered? Right? Do you feel weak? Do you feel strong? Do you have mental clarity? Do you have willpower? Do you are, do you, can you love freely? Do you feel like you’re connected to God? Do you feel that you can see beyond the here and now? Like those are the questions you see, this is where the chakra system now gives us a framework to start questioning like, all right, what are my root chakra?
Ignite With Sebastian (12:16)
Do I feel safe? Do I feel like I can actually support myself? Right? Or am I in survival mode? My sacral? Do I feel that I have a healthy relationship with my sexual energy? Or is there a dependency with porn and having to release that lust? Yeah? My solar plexus. Do I have willpower? Or is my willpower like goes out the window? Right? Like, where are we? So this is the inquiry. So
Ignite With Sebastian (12:45)
the chakra system allows us to engage all right well where am I where’s my state of mind and what chakra should I be focusing on clearing and realigning does that make sense am I making sense
Sam Believ (12:58)
Yep. Cool. So Sebastian, let’s talk about sacred masculinity. What is, what is sacred masculinity?
Ignite With Sebastian (13:07)
Ep, sacred masculinity, what is sacred masculinity? So sacred, well first of all, let’s look at the word sacred, right? So sacred is derived from the world, from a place of sacredness, of reverence, of something holy, ⁓ yes? Something that’s been worked on to be of light, to be of service, yes? And so when we talk about the sacred masculine, is this component of masculinity that has done the work to actually be that safe space.
Ignite With Sebastian (13:36)
to be able to be that healing space that’s done the work to be grounded, to be centered. Yes, that’s done the work to be able to recognize where there’s a responsibility to be taken. Yes, and to really step into and embody a masculine energy component so you can have that masculine container when every year around people, people feel your presence and they can feel safe in your presence and they can feel your solidarity.
Ignite With Sebastian (14:05)
in your presence, they can feel your groundedness. Right? And so that sacred masculinity more than this destination, it’s an embodiment to bring aware and start practicing on a daily basis every present moment. Right? So that’s what I would relate to as a sacred masculine.
Sam Believ (14:24)
So let’s say how does one how does one embody the sacred masculinity as a man?
Ignite With Sebastian (14:32)
Yeah, well, first again, it’s awareness, right? Awareness and awareness is an awareness and awareness is observing. Where am I not? Where am I not being authentic? Where am I not taking responsibility? Where am I not being the man I know I have to be? I know I can be, I know I want to be. Where am I not? Right? That’s the place. Where am I not taking responsibility? Where am I lying? Where am I cheating? Where am I giving the least amount? Where am I not giving my best?
Ignite With Sebastian (15:00)
Where am I being, where can I look in areas of my life that people don’t feel safe around me? How does my family feel around me? How do my friends feel around me? How does the community feel around me? And so these are the deep questions that we have to start engaging with, right? Which takes on this perspective of it’s no longer what can the world and what is the world doing to me, but rather how am I responding to the world and how can I
Ignite With Sebastian (15:29)
be of service to the world yes and so it comes from this container of me me take take and give to me to ooh I got me how can I be of service and being of that service allows you to really step into that masculine container
Sam Believ (15:48)
And that’s a good explanation. ⁓ So I’m gonna announce to people that me and Sebastian, we are going to be organizing a sacred masculinity retreat, which will happen October 3rd to October 6th. And this is a retreat for men only, where we will drink some medicine and then we will work extensively.
Sam Believ (16:16)
exactly the topics we’re talking about today. ⁓ So, Sebastian, why should somebody consider coming to a sacred masculinity ayahuasca retreat? Like who would benefit from that?
Ignite With Sebastian (16:33)
Yeah, absolutely man. So, and again, this sort of give a little bit of backstory. So this is actually something that you and I created out of the participation of this last sacred masculine program that you and I got to work together, right? And so what initiated from that was a 90 day program that was fully focused on re -bringing awareness to our relationship to what it means to be a sacred masculine, right? And to really bring a mirror.
Ignite With Sebastian (17:01)
to where we haven’t fully been honoring that. And so to be able to add to that component, we realized that one of the things that was really missing was a way to be able to integrate all of these teachings in a way that’s applicable, but can also be taught firsthand and in live would be so much better. So we came up with this idea of like, well, how about we actually create a four day experience where we get to take everything that we just talked about in the last 90 days.
Ignite With Sebastian (17:29)
and bring it into a four day container where we get to now talk about, but more than talk about, we now get to implement and we now get to actually practice and engage with the exercises that we were just talking about. ⁓ So while yes, it’s powerful to have completed the 90 day program. It gives you context. Obviously you got 90 days worth of content, right? To be able to now put into a weekend, right? You can still go with no.
Ignite With Sebastian (17:57)
content with no background into this and go and have an incredible experience with a brotherhood with a community of men committed to doing this work and doing what work exactly doing the work necessary to show up as men that are powerful that are grounded that are centered and that are safe to the community that are safe to the world and safe does not mean not dangerous yes I know Jordan Peterson talks about a lot about that when it comes to men and the dangerous component
Ignite With Sebastian (18:26)
So safe men does not mean safe men that are not capable of harming, or rather on the contrary, it’s a brotherhood of fierce men that are willing to do whatever it takes to keep a safe container, which is very different, right? And so being able to step into that greatness, step into that power is part of that sacred masculine. So we get to do that in a four day container.
Sam Believ (18:52)
Okay, so there will be one ayahuasca ceremony to help people open up and connect with the energies, the chakras and everything you mentioned about what else are we gonna do, how it’s gonna look like. ⁓ But yeah, so let’s answer this and then I have the next question ready for you. So how is it gonna look like? What are we gonna do? What are the activities to get people excited?
Ignite With Sebastian (19:18)
Okay, yeah, so, yeah, yeah, yeah, absolutely. So like you did mention, we are gonna be integrating ayahuasca into this. I think it’s gonna be a really powerful component, right? Because oftentimes ayahuasca, it’s under the framework that we’re going there to heal something, yes? And while there will be healing, the context that we’re gonna be utilizing ayahuasca with is a bit different, right? It’s specifically seeking guidance on what it means to be a sacred man.
Ignite With Sebastian (19:45)
what it means to be an honorable man in today’s day and age, right? And so with that, we’re going to be then taking the experience that we got from my Alaska and incorporating different exercises that I’ve been curating so that we can have an incredible experience, a transformative experience where we get to actually move emotions and feel experiences more than just talk. Yes, talking will be necessary and talking will be a critical part of the experience because in talking,
Ignite With Sebastian (20:14)
We get to share and we get to give expression to emotions and thoughts and ideas that we may not have had the platform to do so. So being able to have an audience of men listening to you and engaging with you and supporting you is going to be powerful for the transformational work within a brotherhood of communities of men. Yes, on top of that, being able to hold one another accountable and the different activities and exercises is only going to enhance the experience. So yes, there will be dialogue.
Ignite With Sebastian (20:43)
Yes, there will be communication. Yes, there will be a circle. But yes, there’s going to be a lot of different exercises that’s going to help move that energy and move and leave the experience with a practice. Right. The idea is that the things that you learn in these four days, you get to go back to your home and actually continue to implement and integrate and share with the people in your life.
Sam Believ (21:08)
So what kind of issues in their life can those guys that attend expect relief from? ⁓ For those who are listening and they may be asking themselves, ⁓ is it right for me? ⁓ So what is the improvement going to be like? ⁓ What are the issues people are going through that can get help with this event?
Ignite With Sebastian (21:33)
Yeah, so pretty much who is this event for? What type of men is this for? Right? So this is for men that are committed to actually doing something about their current state of life. Right? And so they feel stuck in whatever way, shape or form, whether it’s in their sexuality, whether it’s in their confidence, whether it’s in their self -esteem, whether it’s in their lack of purpose, whether it’s in their lack of direction, whether it’s in their lack of community, their lack of brotherhood, their lack of camaraderie. Right? And so if you’re a man,
Sam Believ (21:37)
Yeah.
Ignite With Sebastian (22:01)
that is seeking to develop themselves and gain more access to yourself, more access to tools and techniques that are gonna help you evolve yourself, not just as a man for yourself, but as a man that can carry out powerful relationships with other men and with women in your life, right? To be able to increase your confidence, to be able to increase that sense of sacredness within yourself.
Ignite With Sebastian (22:27)
and leave with practices, right? And so if you want to start changing your habits, if you want to change, maybe there’s some level of porn addiction, right? And so this is going to be learning specific techniques so that you can increase your stamina and learn how to move your sexual energy in a way that gives you power instead of depletes your power. And more importantly, you get a community that you get to continuously evolve with and work with as time evolves and progresses.
Sam Believ (22:58)
What about relationship status? If somebody is having a hard time finding relationships or has problems in their relationships, would it be helpful?
Ignite With Sebastian (23:08)
Yeah, absolutely. Right. Because when we look at problems with relationships or our inability to attract a relationship, we really are looking at there’s a lot of limiting beliefs or there’s a good opportunity to identify, all right, like what’s going on, right? In your self confidence, right? How do you relate to yourself? What’s going on with your magnetic field? Are you attracting those type of relationships that you want? Are you attracting the type of women that you want? Right. And if not, well, what’s in the way?
Ignite With Sebastian (23:36)
So part of this weekend is also being able to harness in as a man what’s in the way or what’s the next step for me to evolve as a man so I can be that attractive man that I know I can. So I can attract the type of relationships that I want. So I can attract the type of opportunities that I want. Right? And so even if you don’t have a partner right now, this is all part of your growth, right? Sacred sexuality, sacred masculine.
Ignite With Sebastian (24:04)
Right? Before we can start engaging with partners on the outside world, we got to have a very intimate, powerful connection with ourselves. And this is what it is. It’s really establishing a connection with ourselves so that we are fully ready, at least prepared, to start engaging in relationships with our loved ones.
Sam Believ (24:26)
So now the question is why are you the guy to teach to teach them this tell us a little bit about your your specific stress strength point strong points and Yeah, you’re your story of mastering it yourself
Ignite With Sebastian (24:45)
Yeah, so why me? Well, I would say first and foremost, because I’m living proof of it, man. I’m living proof of what’s of what happens when we start to do the work, specifically around the breath work about the moving the energy of being able to have multiple orgasms without ejaculating, being able to serve women and have them experience the level of safety that they require to be able to blossom. Having testimonies of women that I’ve been able to serve and men that I’ve been able to help serve women and their partners.
Ignite With Sebastian (25:14)
Right? And so there is a track record of me not just learning about this in books, but rather me being out in the field, working this, doing this stuff, actually integrating it into my day to day life. Hence the reason why I’m able to have an incredible, I would say intimate life where I have my tantric lovers and by all means it’s a hundred percent authentic and it’s transparent and there is no need to lie. There’s no need to pretend. There’s no need to, to be something that I’m not.
Ignite With Sebastian (25:43)
but authentically being able to attract the type of relationships that I want, quality women that are up to something incredible in their life and being able to have authentic relationships with each one without any fluff, yes, without any lies, but full transparency, empowered, empowering myself and empowering the women in my life. And so hence the reason why I talk about this and I have the authority to talk about it is because I’m living it.
Ignite With Sebastian (26:12)
because I’m experiencing it, because I get to fully get to enjoy and embrace it. And I see the power and the magic that opens up for people in doing this work. In my Nine City tour that I did two years ago, that was a great eye opener. That it made me realize that there’s a lot of people that are very disconnected from their sexuality. And sometimes we forget, as people that are actively in this world, we forget the gap between what we know
Ignite With Sebastian (26:41)
and what we think people should know and what they actually know. And so this is where I’m here to help minimize that gap and that everyone, all men can start doing this type of work, but it’s going to take practice. It’s going to take a discipline. It’s going to take actions to start integrating into our daily life. And you and I have talked about this before. One of the difficult or the challenges that a lot of men have in doing this work is that it’s one of those things that you have to believe it until you see it for yourself.
Ignite With Sebastian (27:11)
Yes. And oftentimes people are in the, well, I need to feel it before I can believe it. Right. And that’s not usually how it works. You have to actually do the practices and do the practices so that you can become more attuned with your energy so that you can become more sensitive to the subtleties. But if you have none of that connection, it’s going to be very hard for you to actually tap into that. And so someone that’s been programmed with porn with visuals,
Ignite With Sebastian (27:39)
They’re gonna have a hard time to believe in this type of stuff They’ll see somebody like me shaking and having with fucking orgasm and they’re gonna be like, he’s faking it ⁓ that’s bluff. ⁓ that’s fake. And I’m gonna be like sure whatever I get to experience it right and so this is where that component is that there’s a level of wanting to know this information and willing to go through the process long enough till you actually are like, yes
Ignite With Sebastian (28:09)
Now I get to experience this. And here’s the thing. Once you start experiencing energetic orgasms and you start entering into that world, yeah, the primal sex is cool, it’s good, it’s delicious. But there’s something that the energetic sexual component has that the primitive one just is missing. And once we get connected and tapped into that spiritual component, ⁓ man, do we want more. And that only makes us more hungry.
Ignite With Sebastian (28:39)
to learn this and hence the reason more avid about our discipline and our practices.
Sam Believ (28:47)
Great, so it was, I know your story was not always easy for you. It wasn’t always the rainbows and butterflies and the genital orgasms. ⁓ Tell us about your story of achieving it and also why did Ayahuasca tell you not to have sex for two years?
Ignite With Sebastian (29:06)
Yeah, so, and this is something that, yeah, we’ve talked about, right? We talked about how along my journey, like before I got into the whole sexual work, like I was with ayahuasca and I was going through my own depression, through my own anxiety. I was going through my own darkness. And as I was working and going through my own healing, it got to a point where ayahuasca was just like, all right, good. You’ve done a lot of work, but now you have to work on your sexuality energy and no more sex. And I was like, wait, what? What you mean no more sex? What do you mean?
Ignite With Sebastian (29:35)
And it ended up turning into two years of no sex, of no porn. And after those two years, when I went to go drink ayahuasca, I think those were like my fifth time in those two years, ayahuasca finally goes, okay, congratulations. You can start working with sex again. You now know how to say no to sex. And to me, I was just like, I didn’t put one and two together until after that ceremony when I realized it’s like, wow.
Ignite With Sebastian (30:04)
I really can’t say no to sex. Like I can actually have a woman naked in front of me and I can actually have the self control to say no. Now in the time it was, I had a reason and the reason was Ayahuasca told me I couldn’t do it. Right? But now it’s just like, ⁓ now it’s evolved into something deeper. It’s evolved into something more spiritual, but it’s become my decision. It’s become my choice and it’s come from my own.
Ignite With Sebastian (30:33)
my own perspective of sexuality, right? And so it’s been a process of discovering and uncovering my limiting beliefs, my shames, my guilt, my sexual desires, my sexual temptations, ⁓ my kinks, my fetishes, and realizing, wow, where’s their shame? Wow, where’s their guilt? Wow, where am I still feeling not fully empowered or fully self -expressive around my sexuality?
Ignite With Sebastian (31:02)
Where do I still have this anxiety? Yeah. And so part of that is doing all this type of work. And so it’s been a process of having different mentors pull those things out of me and show me like one of the experiences that was very profound was actually working with a Tantric. With a woman that’s trained in the arts of tantra and being able to work with her. She took, she helped me to uncover a lot of my blind spots.
Ignite With Sebastian (31:32)
She helped me realize the importance of breath work when it came to intimacy. She was the one that taught me about our chakra systems and really integrating that into our actual movement, really integrating movement sound, sound, sound, right? Like all of these components that sometimes as guys are like, wait, what, why is that even important? Right? And so I’m very blessed and very honored to all the, to all the different mentors and teachers that have come along.
Ignite With Sebastian (31:59)
Right? There’s a specific maestro, Briananda, right? He was the one that gave me, in a way, by him being himself and me seeing how in the middle of the day at the grocery store, you’ll be buying something and out of nowhere, he’s just like shaking like from an orgasm. I’m like, bro, what are you doing? ⁓ And he’s just like, bro, I’m just excited, man. I’m just an excited man. I’m constantly excited.
Ignite With Sebastian (32:28)
And it’s like literally like he has so much energy that he’d just be like shaking and people around him would start to shake and they’re like, what’s going on? Right. Because there’s so much sexual energy. Right. And so unless I actually saw somebody living that and that just being part of their normal day to day, it was just like, what? I didn’t have a context that that was normal, but now that’s normal for me. Now I’ll be doing something and I don’t know where I’ll just start shaking.
Ignite With Sebastian (32:57)
or somebody around me, I barely touch them and they start to shake. And it’s because of that accumulative energy that we start to create. And there’s now the mental capacity, the mental bandwidth to know that it’s okay, that it’s normal, that that’s actually congruent. You see, sometimes it’s our belief system that stops us because somebody might say, that’s weird. Well, I don’t want to do that. That’s fake. Or that’s this, or that’s that. And so guess what? They’re closing themselves up.
Ignite With Sebastian (33:27)
And so again, part of doing this work is more than the practice, is also dissecting how we relate to sex and all the shames and all the stuff that comes along with it, that come along through our own experiences as we grow up.
Sam Believ (33:45)
So you mentioned Tantricas and Tantra. ⁓ What is Tantra and regarding the event that we’re organizing, will there be any Tantric exercises? Will people learn about Tantra? Talk to us about that.
Ignite With Sebastian (33:59)
Yeah, so Tantra is a philosophy which means to weave together, right? And to weave together, we’re weaving in a lot of different modalities or context around orgasmic energy, around a lifestyle, because that’s really what we’re talking about is a lifestyle, right? And so when we talk about breath work, when we talk about chakras, when we talk about Buddhism, when we talk about Kama Sutra, when we talk about Kundalini, when we say any of those key words, that’s all inside of the umbrella called Tantra.
Ignite With Sebastian (34:29)
That’s all of it. All of it is inside of the umbrella called tantra, right? And so tantra isn’t this specific religion or, or, or doctrine, but rather it’s an open dialogue of what it can contain and the component of orgasmic life, seeing the orgasmic vitality in all and connecting to our transcending duality. Right? And so yes, we’re going to be talking about components of it without necessarily speaking specifically about
Ignite With Sebastian (34:59)
Tantra we’ll talk about Tantra right we’re gonna be talking about breath work. We’re gonna be actually doing the movement We’re gonna be doing the sounds we’re gonna be doing a lot of the exercises that are all inside of that context But I refuse I’m not gonna say I’m a tantric teacher because I haven’t fundamentally learned the the scripture right of Tantra no This is where I say conscious sexuality because it allows me to to play in that realm a lot easier
Ignite With Sebastian (35:27)
without this expectation of I need to know all these Sanskrit words.
Sam Believ (35:35)
Well, I think it sums it up pretty nicely. Any last parting words as into why people should join our event and then maybe tell us a little bit about where people can find more about you and get to know you.
Ignite With Sebastian (35:52)
Yeah, so last minute words. Look, if you are not having incredible orgasms, if you are not producing incredible orgasms for your lovers, for your lover, lovers, if you don’t feel fully empowered around your sexuality, if you’ve made it financially, you’ve done it, you’ve won, you’ve escaped the rat race.
Ignite With Sebastian (36:19)
but you’re still home alone and you’re still paying for company, ⁓ then this is where you should be at. There’s a four day experience for you to really tap into that piece that’s missing or it hasn’t been fully developed yet. And this is where we get to do that work so that you can go back and really step into that man that you know you are, grounded, centered, safe for women, for your community, for yourself.
Ignite With Sebastian (36:49)
connected to your divine purpose and connected to source, right? And so that’s who, that’s who, that’s the last thing I need to say about that. I want to say about that. In regards to me, where people can find me, you guys can go to my Instagram page, Ignite Self Mastery, or you can check out my podcast at Ignite the Spark Within. And that’ll be on all the platforms as well. Sam mentioned I am an author. If you have Audible or Amazon, you can pick up my book, It Takes a Leap.
Ignite With Sebastian (37:17)
And that is a book focused on what it means to take a leap into the abyss in order to really fulfill that mission and that purpose you were designed to create and fulfill. So that’s that’s how you can find me.
Sam Believ (37:31)
Thank you, Sebastian. So you mentioned that if you made it, then you can come. But if you haven’t made it, you can also come because the retreat is very affordable. It’s only $5 .95. You will have both ayahuasca. There’ll be one ayahuasca ceremony, but there will also be a lot of training, a lot of coaching. ⁓ We have this beautiful retreat venue here in Colombian mountains with a creek and a pool and a gym. There’ll be good food. ⁓ So…
Sam Believ (37:59)
It’s all going to be included. ⁓ So guys, definitely come over. I’m excited about this event myself. I have been working with Sebastian for about three months now, him coaching me and trying to understand myself as well. Also my desires and inhibitions and finding my authentic self. It’s been very interesting. ⁓ But from my desire to work with him one on one and see it in person really get
Sam Believ (38:29)
get to connect to those energies was born this idea for this retreat. And I think for those of you here that are interested and maybe calls you, it could be a good interlap between the Ayahuasca work and the other modalities because Ayahuasca shows us glimpses of energies and connections and it’s not easy to bring it back to your life. So this is what Sebastian will do. He’ll teach us frameworks.
Sam Believ (38:58)
and we’ll do practical exercises and hopefully become a little bit more masculine and a little more sacredly, a little more sacred and become sacred masculine and body would be the best masculine versions of ourselves and be better partners, better friends, better fathers, better lovers as Sebastian said. So all of that. And yeah, it is a bit of a prohibited topic I would say, but
Sam Believ (39:27)
when you are here and when you are at this retreat, there will be a lot of transparency. Some guys will learn a lot about me that I generally don’t talk about and we’ll be sharing deeply. We’ll be really in it together and I’m really looking forward to see who joins us. ⁓ So hopefully, hopefully that’s right for you and come over. And once again, as you can see by the price, it’s not a…
Sam Believ (39:55)
It’s not a money grab operation. ⁓ It is mostly comes out of interest for us to work with this ourselves. ⁓ And yeah, come over guys. If you’re feeling cold, if you think that there is something you can improve, this is a retreat for you.
Ignite With Sebastian (40:14)
Thank you, thank you Sam. Thank you for your work and for your space and I look forward to being able to co -create some magic at La Huayra.
Sam Believ (40:16)
Thank you.
Sam Believ (40:25)
Thank you, Sebastian. Great episode. I’m looking forward to the event. Thank you for sharing. And guys, you’ve been listening to Ayahuasca Podcast. As always, we do the whole assembly of, and I will see you in the next episode.